Dr. Paolo Molino

For some time I’ve been feeling a disturbing sensation when I think of some public happenings in Italy and Europe, it is about the desperate need to create an “us” versus “them”. I am very worried because is a phenomenon that stuns me, although it has existed forever, and it scares me, because it is impossible to control.

The first time I realized I was powerless was when I was watching some “sentinelle in piedi” I did not know back then what (more…)

What I am about to write is very eradicated in italian culture. I don’t know if in the anglophone culture there is as much envy as in the deeply catholic italy (deliberately not block capitol initial). If the foreign reader finds this not applicable to his or her culture, I beg forgiveness.
These days there is a lot of talking about envy. (more…)

Lately, thanks to my patients and one in particular I’ve found myself thinking about the issue of missing a romantic partner, which causes so much pain and unhappiness in both genders. It was a while I had it in mind but I couldn’t get it out. Maybe this is the right time.
When I repeatedly felt during sessions how existential sadness and restlessness are partly due to this soul mate’ myth, also said the twin soul, I felt an uproar of anger. The belief that we each has a single soulmate that we ought to find and connect to is a myth because is only partly bounded to the existential sense of solitude (therefore to authenticité and truth to ourselves), and much more related to marketing policies and wealth. I believe that if there is this legend about being compelled to find the twin soul is to the advantage of few. What if I was rather facing (and trying to cope) with the sense of powerlessness in certain given moments, what if I was to comprehend and accept that everyone in mankind is basically on his/her own? I have constantly in mind the Gestalt prayer, the very first line: I am I, and You are You…
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GROUP DYNAMICS 2.0

A constantly growing phenomenon, and also continuously changing shape, is peoples’ interaction. In the last 20 years we’ve watched the arising of digital media and with them of the digital ways to interact and communicate. Words that in 1995 (not much far from yesterday) didn’t mean anything (hashtag, facebook, tweet, whatsapp, etc) have today a powerful meaning in our everyday life.

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In my personal and professional life lately I’ve become aware of this  ‘phenomenon’. I therefore decided to throw some of my thoughts onto the page with the purpose of sharing and clarifying them, hoping it may be useful to me or the reader.

What I’ve written below are personal thoughts, non scientific truths, just some suggestions without any pretence. Whoever is reading can agree with them or not, it’s fine in either case.

My first observation (more…)